Dancing in the Minefields

awakeohsleeper:

I would like to point out that making a covenant with God to remain pure doesn’t just mean that you don’t have sex until you’re married (although that is part of it). Choosing purity is a lifestyle. It is something that affects everything; the way you dress, the way you talk to people and about people, what you think about. It means that you have decided before God to keep your body, your mind, your mouth, your eyes, and your spirit clean before Him. It’s what He asks from us as Christians anyway, but it’s up to us to choose how pure we’re going to be.

Here what I think. In our heads, at least for girls, we all have this picture in our head of our wedding day; how beautiful it’s going to be, what an incredible man we’re going to marry, how he’ll cherish us and love Jesus so much, etc.. We dream about it for most of our lives, we plan everything out, knowing it’s going to be perfect. Don’t do anything that would ruin your perfect picture of that day. Here’s what I mean by that: I personally, want to be able to look at my husband on my wedding day, with absolutely no regrets, no thoughts in the back of my head about what i wish i would have done differently, or have faces of other guys come to my mind. I want to be able to tell him that I have saved myself for him and that no one else will ever know me like he will.

If you’re struggling with sexual purity and feeling discouraged from stumbling, remember that you’re human. As human beings, we all face temptation; we all have hormones. Recently, I was feeling ashamed for wanting it, and I was embarrassed for having those desires. I realized how silly that was though because sex by itself isn’t meant to be sinful or shameful. God made it for us to enjoy. The only problem is when it’s in the wrong circumstances. It was made for marriage only.

I’ve come to the conclusion that until I am married, I don’t have the privilege of laying with my boyfriend on a couch alone. To some, that might seem a little harsh, but I’ve had to learn my boundaries the not so fun way. I had to realize that I’m not strong enough to say no to the temptation, so instead, I have to take myself out of the situation entirely. I can’t put myself in situations that will lead me to stumble. If I am to stumble, it’s most likely the result of a bad choice—of me putting myself in a bad situation. That’s the part I should be ashamed of. Like I said before, I am human. It’s silly of me to expect myself to say no to something like that in the heat of the moment. Sex is something worth enjoying, right? So I don’t want to be ashamed of it or for having those desires or for enjoying it. The shame comes in putting myself in temptations way.

I say all of this to encourage those who feel shame the way I did. Don’t let yourself be ashamed of wanting sex. Remember that God made it for you to enjoy—but only in it’s proper time. He doesn’t want us to feel shame, but He does convict us. Be convicted for putting yourself in a bad situation that led to the sexual sin. Have the self control and the humility to take yourselves away from the heat of the moment. Know that it’s okay to want it, just in the right time.